Positive Attitude comes from Positive Thinking. You just cannot have a positive attitude if you have a negative thinking pattern in everything you see.

Which attitude activates at what time depends upon which thought process dominates your mind at that point in time. From these case-to-case thinking and attitude shifts, you build your overall attitude.

If negative dominates more, you will have a negative attitude as a whole and vice-versa.

If we look closely, your overall attitude is the resultant of your daily attitudes towards the daily things and people.

Thinking builds Attitude. Positive Thinking builds Positive Attitude. Negative Thinking build Negative AttitudeThe more the thinking (positive or negative) dominates, the same your attitude becomes.

So what springs to mind when someone says to you

“I am having a mid-life crisis”? I just feel so lost, I just can’t create a positive attitude about life anymore. 

They could be having an affair because they are unhappy in their marriage? Or they bought themselves a Harley Davidson, something they always wished they had?

Certainly, these types of things can occur when a man is middle-aged.

But for many men, a mid-life crisis doesn’t look like this at all. For some middle-aged men it’s just a quiet, subtle, yet enduring the feeling of dissatisfaction with life. They need help, they some new direction in how to create a positive attitude to their lives.

Can you relate?

Many men can. So how do I get my” Mo-Jo” back?  Do you just throw up your hands and say, “Well, that’s life!” and continue going through the daily grind of your life? Most men do. But why? Why is it so difficult for men to reinvent themselves… and their lives and to create a positive attitude?

The reasons are endless:

  • “I can’t quit my job and find one I would enjoy more because I am too old.
  • “I’m too old to try something new.”
  • “I don’t have the energy or enthusiasm to try something new or to create a positive attitude to try”
  • “My wife would go nuts if I actually followed my passion and made a change.”
  • “What would family and friends think of me?”
  • “I don’t even have a clue how to change or what I would change into!”

We can all find reasons not to do something, that’s easy. What happens is that reasons become excuses not try and change the status quo and my excuses will be different to the man next door.

But there are endless ways to change your life for the better, you just need to more open-minded to the possibility that I can change my life. And you know what. It’s not so difficult to recapture your Mo-Jo. You just need to change your mindset to be more positive and create a positive. You’re not dead yet.

Be Grateful For Life And For Each Day

One of the things that have had the biggest effect on my life is the realization of the power of gratitude.

It has affected everything. It has made me a more positive person.

A more productive person, better achieve, happier and a better husband and father.  I’m not perfect, but gratitude has made me better

Can it change your life as well?

I can guarantee it. You might not get the exact same benefits as I have, but there’s no doubt in my mind that the simple act of gratitude on a regular basis will change anyone’s life, positively and immediately.

Learn Something New.

Go back to college, start a new hobby, learn a second language, do something with family, build something. Whatever it is you want to do just does it! Whats the point in life in having regrets?

Yes, you need a plan of some description. What gets the plan of the paper? Action.

Once you start something you will be surprised how quickly ideas come into your head on how to achieve your plan.

It all boils down to this: Making the first step is the hardest one, your choice is to see if you can make that first step. Now, this first step can be as small as you want it to be but its a step. After that, the path you take will be determined by how many more steps you take. Each new step is a step which ultimately could change the lifestyle you currently have, are you willing to start?

Make New Friends

If you search the internet for friendships and loneliness in middle-age especially in men who find a wealth of knowledge on how to cover come loneliness and to build new friendships. The underlying message is you and your mindset.

And that’s the problem with men of all ages- We are just not very good at making new friends. Why do women feel comfortable in saying that they have “Girl Friends”? Yet men see that as being well -odd for men.

Making new friendships or even better reconnecting with long lost friends is one the best ways of finding a new meaning to your life.

Importance of Self Reflection.

So what is self-reflection?

Putting it simply – Looking at who you are, where you’re at, and what you’re doing—both right now in your day-to-day life, as well as what you’ve done in the past— then using this information to move closer to where you really want to be.

Unless we take the time to reflect on all our daily actions, the good or bad habits we have, how can we know who we are?

Reflection allows us to quickly find that our current actions or lifestyle is often not aligned with what our real goals in life are or the person we truly want to become.

Slowing down and taking time to think about your life is extremely helpful in creating a better sense of you are. Who you want to be, and how you will get there


Learning how to cultivate complete belief or faith is one of the challenges that stand in the way between where you are and where you most wish to be in middle-age. It takes consistent effort to convince yourself that you are capable of making any changes in your life.


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