Men Don’t Grow Old-

They Just Mature With Age.


Not so long ago, the thought of men reaching middle age was ‘letting everything go’ and being allowed to go cheerfully into old age.

The pressure not following the pack, to stop feeling bad about never having to do any exercise, to be able to look in the mirror and see your middle age spread and not be ashamed.

To forget about fashion even if you didn’t have any fashion sense in the first place. Just throw on your favorite shirt and just let it all hang out.

Just throw on your favorite shirt and just let it all hang out.

But boy has times changed, we now refer middle age as “midlife”.

How many men do you know who have or are going through a “midlife” crisis?

They tend to be men who have tried to turn the clock back, by doing something or buying something that goes beyond their age.

Welcome to the world of the new old, men are now targeted for all manner of things.

We must lose some weight; get active, dress to our age and so on.

Now I am not saying that the advice on offer is incorrect, far from it, if you want to age with grace and stay fit then exercise, reducing your drinking and to stop smoking are things we should consider doing.

But it must be a personal choice, not a forced issue, and that’s my point.

Are you ready to start your transformation and get Lean in 15?

Joe Wicks, author of a whole range of cookery books;

Lean in 15: The Shape Plan introduces a new way of eating and training to build lean muscle and burn more fat.

Joe Wicks, aka The Body Coach, has helped hundreds of thousands of people transform their bodies and feel amazing.

In the Shape Plan, he shares 100 delicious recipes and four new workouts to take your fitness to the next level.

But let’s be honest, how many men have the time or the inclination to first buy the book and the time to buy the ingredients and to find the way around the kitchen?

Let me stop there, I not saying that men fall into this typical stereotype of “not been able to boil an egg”.

But let’s be honest again, how many men can find the time to cook from scratch and to follow a recipe and to produce something edible?

The whole point of his books and all other TV chefs is to encourage us to shape up, to lose weight, to slow down the whole process of aging, to become young and active.

It’s not so much about weight loss as defying the slowing down, spreading out-“the middle age spread” which traditionally comes with aging bodies.

The Media

You can barely open a newspaper or Saturday supplement without stumbling across some faintly exhausting new strategy for defying the inevitable.

All illustrated by photos of what looks suspiciously like twenty-something bodies, with abs so taut you could trampoline on them, spiced with anti-aging tips of occasionally dubious scientific provenance.

Are we lead to believe that if we follow any the so called experts that by changing our diet that we too look that?

Well let me tell you, I train three to four times a week, my diet is good, drink not very often and never smoked.

Do I have a body that would grace any of the men’s magazines?

A big fat NO, never in a million years!

The So Called Experts claim:

Eat more walnuts! Lift weights! Have more sex, learn a new language, and don’t forget to do Sudoku to keep your brain active!

The self-improvement industry is moving on from a hundred different ways of saying “don’t get fat” to something more like “don’t get old”, or at any rate, not in a burdensome way.

Related Article: Half of adults don’t even go for a brisk walk 

For it is starting to feel almost antisocial to be middle aged. Once we might have seen the painful, chronic diseases of middle age as unavoidable twists of fate or genetics.

But the increasing evidence that even conditions like dementia – let alone diabetes, cancer or heart disease – are at least partly linked to diet and exercise brings a degree of responsibility.

This week a study was produced by Public Health England with the head line:

Half of the adults don’t even go for a brisk walk once a month— with over -the 40s most at risk.

Health bosses say that more than 6 million inactive people are between 40 and 60 who are by not walking on a regular basis are putting their busy lives ahead of their health.

Now, I just stop for a moment and consider what they are saying.

Yes, I think all men would agree that we would like to shed a few pounds, just for appearance sake.

But how can they expect for us men to find the time not only to cook a great lean meal but to exercise to burn off the calories?

At present, the NHS recommends that we do 150 mins of moderate activity to include brisk walking or 75 mins of vigorous activity every week.

Even by their own recommendations, they state that it may be a bit difficult to meet these targets, now there’s a surprise!

Do these so called experts really understand what modern day life is like?

For me, it sounds unethical for my doctor not to share knowledge that could, in theory at least, prevent my untimely death.

But like most things in life, it’s not that simple as it looks – not least because so many of those most at risk won’t necessarily want to know that are at risk.

I felt faintly ridiculous when I booked in for my Well Man check-up.

A free NHS check-up now offered to men, to pick up early warning signs of conditions such as high blood pressure –

when there’s nothing wrong with me.

Sticking up a conversation with the nurse admitted that most of those taking the test turns out to be revoltingly healthy. The smokers, the obese and the heavy drinkers are often reluctant to take up the offer for fear of being told something awful.

And there lies the problem.

Men know that their current life is not good for them but are reluctant to ask for help because of the unknown.

So instead she sees more than her fair share of “worried wells” and men in Lycra, desperate to get a gold star for running a marathon every weekend.

How Do You Want To Age?

That is the nub of it.

We all can’t look like George Clooney; he is obviously blessed with exceptional genes.

But for the average man, underpinning all this getting old gracefully rubbish tends to be a painful vanity, the sort of self-regard that keeps tummy-tuck clinics, cosmetic dentists and Mancunian hair transplant centers in business.

We all know that we need to be more active, to cut down on the drinking and to stop smoking, and I have written on all these topics and yes, they are important if we men want to have an extended life.

But we don’t need it 24-7.

What we need is a society that understands the modern middle-aged man, and not to have this typical stereotype image of Super Man!

And does it work? If so, answer me this: why don’t more men, on the streets of Manchester and elsewhere, look as good as Mr. Clooney?

There’s nothing wrong with looking after yourself as you age, dressing elegantly, opposing the paunch and all the rest of it. If I’m honest, that’s what I’m hoping to achieve.

But given a choice between having a hair transplant and having a few pounds around the middle, I know which one I’d choose.

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