“I have no idea how to go about resolving the constant questions that go through my head! I am being pulled in every direction and I can not a see a way out from this endless daily grind. Asking these questions just makes my life miserable as it always leads to no answers over and over again. I can’t see any light at the end of the tunnel all I see is more questions! Is it possible for people like me to find inner peace”?
Is there such thing as Inner Peace and more importantly what does it actually mean?
If you go to Wikipedia, they describe it as Inner peace (or peace of mind) refers to a deliberate state of psychological or spiritual calm despite the potential presence of stressors. Being “at peace” is considered by many to be healthy (homeostasis) and the opposite of being stressed or anxious, and is considered to be a state where our mind performs at an optimal level with a positive outcome. Peace of mind is thus generally associated with bliss, happiness and contentment.
In the race of becoming rich, we have absolutely forgotten to take care of ourselves. I understand that money means a lot these days. But, do you think that it can buy happiness?
What is Inner Peace?
This is how I would describe inner peace.
- It’s not a place, its something that is not tangible, it can only be found by you and it requires you to let go of the past and to stop worrying about the future.
- We don’t need to go searching for inner peace. Inner peace is deep within us all. After all, it’s our natural state of being. We just have to learn how to let it through to the surface.
- Finding inner peace is about learning to heal those things that prevent us from experiencing our natural peaceful state.
- Because inner peace is a state of being, not doing, it can be a little hard to put into words. Living in a peaceful state could mean that we experience more of the following on a regular basis:
- Developing a feeling of more peace in our lives takes practice, but inner peace comes from turning inward, not outward.
- Apart from busy life and frenetic timelines, it is necessary to spend some ‘me’ time for finding the inner peace.
- Some people seem to be born with it. But luckily, it’s a skill that can be learned and honed, with practice and lifestyle changes.
When looking into ways and ideas for improving your life, ask yourself.
- What areas of my life am I not happy with?
- What can I do to improve my life?
- Am I happy with my current role in employment?
- Am I happy with my current financial situation?
- Am I happy in the relationship that I have with my family?
I have no doubt that there are many men out there who are searching for ways of improving their overall quality of life. We have no divine right to be happy of course but on the other hand, we should not just sit back and accept second best.
Many Things Will Help You In Achieving True Inner Peace.
The most important of all, is, develop a profound sense of acceptance: for everything that happens to you in life, everything that may seem to have gone wrong or haywire.
Whatever happens, learn to accept things and the consequences of your actions and let it go if things go wrong. Just accept it.
As it has already happened. The damage is done. It’s in the past and you can’t change it. Concentrate on the present and be content with whatever you have.
Moreover, learn to accept the bad along with the good, as it is, for all that is part of life.
You should rejoice in all kind of feelings, for it makes you human. Seeking to be happy all the time will wear you out just as sadness does.
You ought to strive for seeking a balance between all things and cherish the good memories while letting go of the negative ones.
Learn To Live In The Moment. Stop Thinking About The Past.
An inability to let go of the past and a sense of inevitability about the future will plague the mind. Moreover, it keeps you from enjoying the present moment, from wholly focusing on the present.
Take each day as it comes. It is much less burdensome, and less overwhelming, to think of what can be done today, rather than be bogged down by what should have been done yesterday, or what can happen tomorrow. Learn to appreciate events as they happen.
We all learn from the past bad experiences, but thinking about them too much won’t allow you to live in the present. Similarly, you should also focus on evolving your present without thinking about what happened in the past.
Don’t think about the past if it was difficult. Don’t think much about the future as it has not yet come. Always try to live in the moment.
Notice the small, seemingly little things around you. Notice the beauty of nature, trees, birds, the laughter of an innocent child, the careless dogs lying in the street, the cheerful kids playing some sport, the conversations people are having, their joy, sorrow, love towards their friends, family or spouse. Learn to share their joy and sorrow.
Be kind and helpful towards them and everyone you encounter. The joy of helping others would be a great catalyst in cultivating real, long-lasting peace.
Get Rid Of All The Distractions That Come In The Way Of Achieving This
Don’t be addicted to your phone, social media or excessive partying, drinking, as they all major obstacles on the way to peace.
You lose control, without you realizing it, and become obsessed with vanity, trying to impress people and comparing your life with others.
Don’t compare your life with others to see if they have more or less than us. To achieve peace, it shouldn’t matter to you, in either case.
Spend Some Time On Reflection. Take Time Out.
Away from everyone and everything, just you and your thoughts. Reflect upon what you really want in life and how you could achieve it and also what should be important in your life and what shouldn’t be.
Spending time in solitude is a healthy way to analyse your life and to make necessary amendments. It brings a sense of calmness, a relief to your mind.
You quickly forget about your worries and little problems. You find yourself accepting the shortcomings of life and concentrating on important things.
Spend Quality Time With Your Family And Friends.
While you may be busy working and moving towards achieving your goals, giving proper time to family and loved ones can rejuvenate your mind. I don’t know why people have time for everything except their families for whom they are working days and nights. Remember, your family is a true source of motivation and spending quality time with them can help you find peace within yourself
Learn To Accept.
There are many things you’d like to change – but cannot – and you should be able to accept that. There are many traits that you do not have, and that is simply against your nature, and you should reconcile yourself with that.
There are people around you who do not behave as they ought, and despite nudging, guiding, negotiating, debating and outright arguing, will not be swayed.
You do what you can, but learn to accept that sometimes this will not result in the hoped-for outcome. Avoid getting frustrated and feeling as though you were hitting your head repeatedly against a wall, by learning to accept.