The one thing we can all guarantee on is that every day we all get a little bit older. And the other guarantee is that we will be still working well into our 60’s or beyond.
Does that prospect fill you with fear? It should do. Why, well if you think about it how many of us are actually doing a job we love?
It’s been suggested that about 60% of employees are unhappy at work or in their current job. And if you imagine that you will spend a good 50% of your life at work, it seems pretty obvious that if you doing something for 50% of your life that you are not happy with, so why carry on doing it if it makes you unhappy? You then surely you should be asking yourself – What is stopping me from having a life with balance and purpose?
And as we enter middle age it’s natural that our minds and thoughts tend to wander, we start to try and envisage what the next few years may look like. We create a picture in our minds of life beyond work or it may even be still based on work, but I would hazard a guess that everyone will paint their own picture. Some good some bad.
Life Balance Priorities Shift During Your Lifes Journey.
Have you noticed that life has a habit of speeding by, days slip quickly into the past? Before you realize, you are smack in the middle of midlife. Things change. People change. Midlife can be perplexing and difficult to handle. So how should you view having a life with balance and purpose?
To me, having a life with balance and purpose means that I have control over the various elements in my life and I don’t feel that my heart or mind is being pulled too hard in any one direction. More often than not, I feel calm, grounded, clear-headed, and motivated. So much so that I found a fresh belief, courage and faith to start menat50ish.
Like many people, I wanted more out of life and I was, not prepared to settle for an everyday dull routine. Even in the heart of change and pain, you can find balance, symmetry and peace.
For Other People, It Will Be Something Completely Different.
I have found a lot my friends seemed to have lost their enthusiasm for their work, and they all see to share common traits:
- Their work has little connection to the things they really care about. Work seems to be a barrier to them for any sort of fulfilment.
- They are all good at what they do, but deep down I know that it’s not what they want to do.
- They have never made a long-term plan to guide them toward a more fulfilling vocational life. They tend to set short-term goals, or set no goals at all.
- As they reach mid-life and understand the need for meaning, they turn to their current work as a source of what’s missing. Most organizations, though, are structurally incapable of providing nourishment for the soul. So the mid-life employee’s frustration grows
Small Changes Can Make A Real Difference.
Make small, incremental changes, add them together equals bigger, more radical changes, but it is a gentle process. What if we simply change the way we see life by one degree – applying our purpose and sprinkling our passions in new and unexpected ways? Would that improve life? Would it make us better at what we do? Would we enjoy it more?
Only you can readdress the balance in your life, no one else. It’s up to you to balance all the different aspects of your lives. You just have to decide to do it. You have only one life, so use it. Don’t wait for the grass to grow under your feet, take time to find your true values, what important to you, write them down. Set some goals, short, medium and long-term, again write them down. Don’t be afraid of change, change is a good thing if its well thought out and planned for.
Here are some suggestions to get you going:
- Assess Your Life As It Is Now.
- Make A Conscious Decision To Become Balanced.
- Make Your Decisions On A Minute-to-Minute Time Scale.
- Set Goals In Every Area of Your Life.
- Be Willing To Take Risks.
- Make Time To Reassess Yourself On A Daily Basis.
What type of person do you want to become? What type of values do you want to stand for? Which actions do you want to become your habits? By having a life with balance and purpose you can achieve all these and so much more.
The only way to live a life that is true to you is to have a purpose to organize your life around. It’s not easy, but if you take the time to be clear about what you stand for and where you want to go, then the courageous steps will seem simple. Clarity of purpose is everything.
You can live your life with balance and purpose every day of your life, and find avenues and jobs that help you to explore your purpose. But you need to know what having a life with balance and purpose truly means to you. You just have to take the time to ask yourself the questions that reveal your truths and help you to articulate them.